We have a different way of talking politics.

"You feel like people are actually listening. Meaning they’re stopping, they’re being silent, and they’re digesting what you’re saying. They’re not just having an immediate response..."
Kyree
CPL New York Member

We Host Curious Conversations

We are an open door offering a forum available to the general public and free to all.

We Get People Talking...

The goals of our conversations are:

  • To help us understand how and why we disagree.
  • To practice the skills that make it possible for us to disagree in a civil, respectful way.

Our members don’t try to change minds, win debates, prove a point, or reach consensus. We listen to understand: attending to the other person as they speak, consciously setting aside the tendency to defend.

Being in “discovery mode” opens our minds and encourages curiosity, helping us appreciate the different ways we each see the world. It fosters connection among people who don’t ordinarily meet, much less agree. We engage with tolerance to increase individual and group exposure to different views — leveraging our differences as strengths — in your city, in your neighborhood, and in virtual spaces.

About the Issues of the Day...

We use national polls to choose the upcoming topics.  Members then sign up for those topics that interest them most.

Each topic package contains:

  • focus identifying an aspect of the issue we believe can be explored in two hours.
  • Prompts designed to get as many views on the table as possible.
  • Recommended readings so everyone can come to the meeting with at least some shared facts.

In civil, respectful conversations...

Our community has developed community norms that “rub off” on first-timers. 

Civil, respectful conversation, especially about politics, is becoming a lost art.

  • We publish our basic, common-sense rules for listening and talking.
  • Our trained moderators model and reinforce these rules.
  • We offer free skills workshops for anyone who wants to really master the skills.

Under the guidance of trained moderators.

We teach a special type of facilitation.  Moderators learn to put their own political views aside when in the meeting and focus on making sure each participant gets the opportunity to share his or her own views.  (But only if they want to!)

They learn CPL conversations are not about finding consensus, winning arguments, getting to a single right answer.  They learn to help us understand why each person’s views make sense to them.

Moderators let conversations unfold organically.  They keep the conversation rolling, make sure it’s civil, and give everyone an opportunity to talk.

WE OFFER TRAINING

We’ve discovered that behind our success lies a set of new skills and a deeper understanding of why/when conversations go wrong. Our monthly workshops are free, and open to all.
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Christy
CPL New York Member
"I prefer to have civil conversations and learn something new out of it. Like we do at CPL."

WE BUILD COMMUNITIES

Book Club

Every month, our members explore the books people are reading to cross party lines.

Social Events

At Crossing Party Lines, we break bread together, laugh together, and play together.

“Conversations are the way we connect, engage, navigate, and transform the world with others.”

~JUDITH GLASER author of Conversational Intelligence

CPL hosts weekly moderated conversations that give each person a chance to share their unique perspectives. The goal is to help us understand how and why we disagree. We don’t try to change minds, win debates, prove a point, or reach consensus. We listen to understand:

warmly attending to the other person as they speak, consciously setting aside the tendency to defend.

Being in “discovery mode” opens our minds and encourages curiosity, helping us appreciate the different ways we each see the world. It fosters connection among people who don’t ordinarily meet, much less agree. We engage with tolerance to increase individual and group exposure to different views — leveraging our differences as strengths — in your city, in your neighborhood, and in virtual spaces.

We are an open door offering a forum available to the general public and free to all.

A Better America. A Better You.

The techniques we use in Crossing Party Lines have the potential to bridge divisions in our lives and politics.
No chapter near you? Let us know and we’ll see what we can do.

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    CPL 100: Your Brain on Politics

    What’s going on in the world of politics? Why does talking politics so often feel off limits or fraught with danger? How can we get back to the good old days when it was OK to disagree and we could still be friends despite different views? In this workshop you’ll learn the root cause of the political divide: Your Limbic System.  You will:
    • Learn what the limbic system is, the role it plays in our survival, and why politics today triggers into our fight our flight response.
    • Do a Limbic Audit to get to know how your unique brain responds to perceived threats.
    • Recalibrate your threat response.
    • Design an action plan for working with your Limbic System to show up in political conversations more fully “you.”
    Come learn how you can tap into your brain’s amazing powers to make talking across differences easier.
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    CPL 101: Talking Politics

    Civil, respectful discourse. Talking. Listening.

    In CPL 102 we’ll covered the basics of how to Listen Politics in a way that fosters connection and understanding. In this class we’ll share the secrets of Talking Politics in a way that invites others to listen rather than dares them to defend against your ideas or shut you down.

    Talking politics refers to sharing your views in a way that supports dialogue instead of debate. Rather than the typical political speak we hear in the media and debates that is all about telling others how they should think, CPL’s approach to talking politics provides insight into why your political views make sense to you; it promotes curiosity, respect and connection and helps others understand how their views and yours can coexist without either of you being wrong or immoral.

    But it is not easy, because we’re conditioned to defend our point of view rather than share it or share about ourselves. In this meetup we will:

    • Look at why our views are right for us.
    • Learn skills that make it possible for us to speak across our differences.
    • Explore strategies for overcoming communication barriers.
    • Break into pairs to practice productive civil discourse.

    CPL 102: Listening Politics

    One of the first things people ask us when they hear about Crossing Party Lines is how we get politically divided people to listen and speak respectfully to each other. Our response is that we’re about listening politics, not arguing politics.

    Listening politics refers to listening in a way that supports dialogue instead of debate. Rather than the typical listening we see in political discussion that is all about listening for a chance to argue or to defend, CPL’s listening promotes curiosity, respect and connection; it enables an open-minded search for discovery, the kind that detectives use.

    But it doesn’t come naturally because we’re conditioned to prejudge and to defend our point of view.

    In this workshop you will:

    • Learn how our intentions in joining a conversation dictate how we listen.
    • Cultivate curiosity about views that are different from yours.
    • Learn about Active listening as well as how and when to use it.
    • Practice skills that make it possible for us to listen and speak across our differences in a way that moves us all forward.
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    CPL 200: Moral Foundations in Political Conversation

    Moral Foundations Theory provides a useful framework for talking politics.

    We begin by discussing each of the six foundations and getting a taste of how they can manifest differently in different people.

    This leads to exploring some of the tensions intrinsic within the foundations themselves, which opens the door to moving from the moral/immoral dichotomy to an appreciation of how interacting with people who are differently moral to us leads to a more nuanced view of any issue and eventually to better solutions.

    In this workshop you will:

    • Learn to recognize the moral underpinnings of your own views
    • Listen for indications that one or more of the six moral foundations is at play in a political discussion.
    • Bring morality into a discussion in a non confrontational way
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    CPL 201: Crossing Party Lines in Real Life

    In this workshop we’ll help you feel more comfortable bringing the CPL way of talking politics into your real lives.

    We’ll look at four types of situations:
    • Gatherings of friends who hold similar political views
    • Family get-togethers with diverse perspectives
    • Workplace conversations
    • Chance encounters

    We’ll teach you techniques and approaches you can bring to all these situations to help you navigate them in a way that leaves you feeling true to yourself and your beliefs.

    Come prepared to share your own biggest challenges and practice new ways of handling them with fellow CPL members.

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    CPL 301: Finding Shared Facts

    Science and fact are at the root of almost everyone’s political views.  Yet we don’t all have the same facts or trust the same science and scientists.

    Too often political conversations devolve  into my facts (or experts or news sources) against yours and none of the participants gets a chance to learn and grow.

    In this workshop you will:

    • Learn a new framework for talking about facts in a civil, respectful way that lets participants explore how and why their facts differ. 
    • Use this framework to find conversational entry points.
    • Apply the framework in an exercise that leads to shared facts.
    • Break into pairs to explore a topic that matters to both of you.

    Science and fact are at the root of almost everyone’s political views.  Yet we don’t all have the same facts or trust the same science and scientists.

    When someone doesn’t trust or believe the scientists or scientific studies you trust, conversation often stops.  Where else can it go besides name calling? It doesn’t have to, though.

    In this workshop you will:

    • Learn a new framework for exploring science and scientific studies. 
    • Use  the framework to find the point at which trust diverges, which becomes the conversational entry point that will allow you to connect with your conversation partner.
    • Practice techniques for exploring the reasons one person trusts scientific results and another does not.
    • Break into pairs to explore a science-related topic that matters to both of you.

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